I moved in with a family last weekend, and have not been online very much since. My family consists of Mom, Gloria, Dad, José, sons José, 20, Diego, 14, Fernando, 6, and Davíd, 1, daughter Andréa, 9; grandfather, Oscar, 7?, Gloria´s sister Angie, sometimes, and her little girl Shariz, 4. They are all nice and friendly to me, and very jolly and bustling with each other. The homelife is so very typical of any family, like ours, with work, school, childrearing drama, football on the TV, football in the courtyard, football in the street, (substitute basketball for comparison to our house) except that the gender roles are much more traditional, with Gloria bearing 95% of the housework. José the elder has a very playful relationship with the kids, but he is the strict disciplinarian when it is needed.
The house is very old. It is the home of Oscar´s grandparents. In some ways, it shows its age, with outdated electricity and plumbing, except for the electricity in the new addition where my room is. The family chips away at updating for their needs. Houses here are not electrically heated or cooled. At night, temperatures drop to chilly 50s this time of year, but by the time the sun burns the fog away in the morning, around 10, the day warms up to around 80F. Since last week, rain falls every afternoon, sometimes softly as you would find in Cancun, but like last Thursday, it can rain torrentially. Usually, by morning, rain is gone and the day warms up.
Showering is one of the first things that struck me as having changed a great deal in a third world country home since I visited Bolivia many years ago. In Bolivia, water for the shower was heated using an apparatus attached to the pipe just above the shower head. A squeeze bottle or metal can much like an oil can held alcohol fuel that I squeezed into a little trough that encircled the water pipe. A metal heat transferring grid surrounded the pipe and heated the water as it flowed through the pipe inside the apparatus. As long as the fuel lasted, the water was heated pretty well, at least not spring-water cold that comes from the mountains. The missionaries insisted that we use just one serving of alcohol per shower.
Now, the device is much the same, except the alcohol fuel has been replaced by an electrical heating element surrounding the pipe. The water still travels through the device, which makes me sort of nervous, hoping not to die a Thomas Merton death, electrocuted in the bathroom (just kidding, Rachel) The mountain water is still just a bit more on warm side of tepid. These devices are quite common, more common than heated reservoirs of hot water, like the one in my own basement. In the kitchen, the water is cold, and must be heated on the stove. When Cindy and I went to Panajachel for the weekend, we stayed in a hotel that had real hot water, heated in a water heater, just like home. It felt absolutely decadent to steam up the bathroom mirror and stand under the shower until my skin turned red.
The shower is just one way of illustrating how close to the bone the average person in a city like Xela or Guatemala City lives. There are amenities to city living like cafés and restaurants, plenty of stores to buy anything you might need, buses to get you where you need to go, and in the shower, warm water in which to bathe. But, this family, whom I would say are middle class, with cable TV, good food to eat, secure roof over their heads, many people to lighten the load of daily cost of living, are in material terms very poor, living an average life in a third world country, and it is quite a contrast to my life, and I dare say, to the life of anyone who might be reading this.
I do count my blessings, in my own home and lifestyle. Those who know my tendency to fix things will recognize this urge I have to go out to the hardware store and get a working doorknob for the upstairs hallway door, or get one of those on-demand water heaters just now making it to the US, but widely in use in the rest of the world. Instead of a doorknob, a rag has been passed through the hole where the doorknob would go, and the tail of the rag is pressed between the door and the jamb to hold it closed. I have an urge to run out and buy the tiles needed to finish the shower in the bathroom outside in the courtyard, so typical of homes here. My sense of cleanliness is different, and it takes some getting used to. But, that is not my role here. My role is to move into this family, enjoy the bed and the meals they provide, converse with them, learn Spanish, and move on. My discomforts here are not about this family and what they do not have, my discomforts are about my own material obsessions, and what I have been socialized to expect in my daily life. If I started trying to fix things up here, I would never go to class, which is why I am here, and it would take the rest of my life.
The city kicks up a certain constant grit that permeates everything. The safety of the water is a major problem, combined with a horrible sanitation system. I have been very fortunate to encounter just one day of discomfort due to eating in a café off the tourist loop, or outside my home. Gloria has been advised about how to cook for students from other countries, and to provide safe bottled water. A couple of doses of Cipro and Immodium and everything is right again, not unusual at all for a visitor to the country. But, even the citizens have problems with the pollution of the water and the air. Many suffer from chronic illnesses, but people here are not socialized to go to the doctor for treatment, and they conceptualize illness very differently from the way our culture does. For instance, many average people are making light of the swine flu outbreak in Mexico. Flu passes through this country every year, just as it does everywhere. To many people here, this is just another reason to ostracize the poor, to blame the poor for a problem that is inconvenient to the more powerful countries. I have even heard suspicions that the outbreak is a strategy of US drug companies, that the virus was planted in Mexico, in order to use the poor to test new drugs. When you live here for a while and pay the least bit of attention, these kinds of suspicions begin to make sense. After all, the US did sponsor and train soldiers for the murder and disappearances of thousands, perhaps 100,000 indigenous persons in order to suppress a growing independence of thought and autonomy, much as the powers resisted civil rights in our own country for so many generations. Just as many persons of color do not trust organized medicine in our own country because of the history of Tuskeegee Syphilis Study, people here look askance at any kind of externally originated outreach that would touch upon their sense of safety.
Before I lapse into a pathological mindset about the conditions here, I want to be quick to point out that the relationship between our two countries is very close and complicated. It is so close that we could invest a great deal more in fostering a great deal of improvement in the quality of life here, and it is so complicated that no matter what we might try to do, as well-meaning Christians or well-meaning neighbors, corruption in the government at every level will always undermine such efforts. It is not a matter of imposing US values on a different country, it is a matter of hospitality having been abused for so long, and lessons not having been learned from one political administration to the next.
Rather than talk about what might be lacking, I choose to see how people here living in abundance. For the big things, people are able to organize for change, they are free to protest in rallies called “manifestaciónes” a very interesting concept, no?), and they do an incredible job of working with the resources at hand, and to bring about the lively discourse and action that does work.
Families like my Guatemalan family have a lot to teach a wealthy person like me about what really matters in life – love, family (however that is construed by those living it out), education, food, safety, and meaningful work. All of the rest is icing on the cake. My cake is mostly icing, so free it is from insufficiency. On purpose, I do not say “in comparison” because that would be an insult to my Guatemalan family, so abundant are their essentials that I listed above. I am learning a lesson from them that I don´t think was included in the tuition, so I am very grateful.
Yet, there is a reality about life here that we should scrutinize. The deep analysis of life in this and any other country that suffers in a direct way from the meddlesome tactics of a superpower needs to be done in every generation. Many more books and articles are available that tell the story better than I can. Here in our little banana republic, I am humbled by history. I am intentional in calling Guatemala “our” banana republic, because we helped to create this place, especially in the 20th century, with the United Fruit Company, and most heartbreakingly in the 36 year war of the late 20th century, to protect our country´s “interests”. Shame on us, shame on our military. What would it take to make up for all of that sovereign violence, even more heinously rendered and blessed during an evangelical Christian era of our country´s leadership? Shame on us, shame on them, leaving this beautiful country in such a mess. Peace accords were finalized in 2000, but it will take many more generations to realize the benefits.
My room is upstairs in a new addition, down the hall from the rooms of José the younger and a friend of his, Luis, who rents from the family. I´ll get some photos this weekend.
Part of my tuition to PLQ goes to room and board for the family. The school sends a check home with me at mid-week, and Gloria buys groceries and any household items that go to my upkeep. I try to take care of most of my household needs so that they have some money to do things they might enjoy. I don´t know for sure, but I think I saw a new pair of shoes on Fernando yesterday. I buy and use my own soap, shampoo, TP, and laundry detergent. Gloria has a washing machine out on the back patio, but no dryer. She is constantly washing clothes for this household, and has clotheslines in every possible place with exposure to the sun. I keep thinking of things that would make her life a bit easier, but what about the extra cost in electricity? I think I could easily afford a dryer, but like other meddlesome gringo ideas, it might leave the family with a bigger burden in the long run. This is not my role. My role is to pay attention and be a decent boarder.